#52. Confront someone who’s done you wrong

This one is going to be tricky as I can’t really reveal much about how this person did me wrong, but I can tell you the situation that went down last week.

I have this great friend who I email/talk to almost daily and often see each other every other weekend or so. She had given me a piece of information regarding something that could have changed part of my life and I accepted it. Then in the history of an email that hadn’t been erased to another person I read that what she told me was not in fact true.

My first reaction was hurt – why would she lie?

Followed by anger – I thought we were better friends?

Then I decided I would sleep on it to clear my head, instead of a reaction that could go completely horrible. Emails/phone calls/texts became unanswered and she started worrying - even contacting T.

Many times I composed an email, read it to T, and then didn’t send. I was questioning how important the friendship is and how to approach it without placing blame and causing a rift? What I really wanted to do is say “hey, maybe you should cut and paste certain emails and leave out the history”, but I didn’t.

I turned to T and other friends asking how I should handle it and all answers were to proceed with caution, but be honest.

So I did.

I replied to the original email first thing the next morning stating I had read the email history, didn’t know if I should be hurt or angry so had decided to give it time and wondered why I hadn’t been told what actually was going on.

I hit send and held my breath. Seriously, I love this girl; she is so much fun and makes the days at work go by quicker. We love the same shows, our husbands are two of the same, and I wasn’t sure what I’d do without her?

There was a perfectly good explanation. I read the history correctly, but there was a different angle to the information, one that hadn’t been discussed. She felt horrible, and apologized, and I’m extremely happy a confrontational over reaction didn’t occur, because life with her in it is just so much more fun.

#54. Write a body manifesto.

According to the book, I am to come up with a list of all the things I like about my body so that on those days where you are miserable and absolutely nothing you own looks even remotely good on you and you just want to crawl back under the covers and hibernate that you read it and feel ok about yourself.

Yeah. Right.

No list is going to make me change my mind when my pants are too snug, or my hair won’t straighten, or I can’t draw a straight line with my eyeliner to save my life. It’s on those days where I walk out of the house barley put together feeling horrible that T pipes up and tells me I’m beautiful and justifies his purpose in the morning.

So yeah, I guess sometimes I like my hair, but definitely not all the time. I like my freckles as they remind me of my youth that I’m still clutching onto for dear life, and I like the fact that my eyesight has never failed me and I’ve required glasses like my father/mother/sister.

So let me tell you about some weird things… which I guess I definitely find cool.

1. I’ve never had a nose bleed. EVER.

2. I am double jointed in my fingers

3. I can make my eyes twitch (babysitters paraded me around like a circus act)

4. The top of my mouth is not flat- it formed a rather large bump in the middle

5. I have a blue dot on my butt – no idea how or where it came from but it never goes away

6. My sister and I have identical freckles on our hands

7. My skin has two colors – white and red. No such thing as a tan.

8. My jaw is too small for my teeth – you name it, it’s been pulled out. Twice.

9. I still have my appendix and my tonsils

10. I broke my baby finger, didn’t go to a doctor, it didn’t heal properly and now doesn’t function 100%

So there you have it, the list of things I could write disliking my body would double or triple this list, but these are the things that make me unique. If I were to look at this list on a bad day when nothing is going right it wouldn’t make me feel better, just maybe more like a freak of nature.

Can anyone else top these? I have an overwhelming feeling to feel normal again!